THE NUMBER #1 REASON people do not succeed.
Strange as it seems, most people do pretty good at knowing what they want. They may even have a good plan to get it. The problem occurs in the moment they need to take that one critical step that puts them over the top. What happens? Consistently, the focus and energy SHIFTS from moving TOWARD the vision and instead the energy refocuses on AVOIDING what they FEAR.
Not surprisingly the thing feared most is failure! Soooo some sort of procrastination or other self sabotaging antic shows up to make sure failure or embarrassment never occurs. Ironically, this pattern guarantees that SUCCESS in the manifestation of the vision never occurs either.
This cycle breaks the moment you discover that 90% of humanity will put more effort into avoiding what they fear than they will in perusing what they really want.
Singles stay single trying to avoid rejection. Employees stay under compensated avoiding the rejection of a raise or negative feedback on their performance. And even Pastors drive away the very people who can build their church out of fear of competition and comparison.
The remedy? SEE THE PATTERN and push past the fear. Everything you want is on the other side of a courageous choice!
What do you think?
Lance
Sounds like my life!
Wow I totally agree! Yet you opened the door to clarify what’s was going on. SO nowt that the door is opened and I awakened to this pattern. I’m walking through to my success and dreams in business. Thank You.
I agree with Valerie. Now that we know what the problem is we can take steps to change it in our own lives. God is sending solutions in buckets full through dedicated men and women such as Lance. Keep seeking God’s wisdom and sharing it with us Lance, and we will strive to show you it was worth your time. Then we will truly succeed as one!!
I think it is one of the more profound statements I have ever heard. Gives me great insight of the strategy of the enemy
within in me! My God! On the other side of my fear….I Win! I’m going to the other side!
I had this exact conversation with a coaching client yesterday. Not verbatim, of course, but so closely that I could have been repeating what I read in Dr. Wallnau’s post. I suppose I’m on the right track!?! 😉
I think that is unfortunately quite true Lance…along with other factors which lead up to the fears and creating the back off from the courage needed to go forward. There’s a lot of talk about bloodlines right now, so maybe it’s also a defeatist attitude in the blood. Tomorrow however…I am going out to conquer and get my mind right with God and go for what is ahead…having just released an album we need to be full of Holy Spirit boldness !! Ya right on !
OUCH! Did you have to tell the truth so accurately Lance? 🙂
In my consulting/training business, I routinely help people with issues of fear, rejection etc. and then, (I’m sure I’m the ONLY ONE this happens to…) I struggle with the same issues in my own life. Thanks for the gentle kick in the behind to help us. Blessings!
Driving home today from the Harrisburg region after all day job interviews (currently unemployed) were billboards from a large insurance company (Capital Blue Cross) …..the tag line….LIVE FEARLESS……which is their new ad campaign.
You might want to check this out
I know I will be blogging about it on FRI:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=76C69TjCvGc
Yes Lance. Word for me right now. Ta
General Patton understood fear well. He was a CALCULATED RISK-TAKER. He weighed the odds of winning and worked out the strategy FIRST before committing. He was a praying man and kept a note pad and pen beside his bed on his nightstand. Answers would come to him in his sleep to problems he was facing in the day. (We know from scripture God talks to us while we sleep.)
The famous slapping incident we all remember from the movie isn’t the whole picture. While the fighting in Sicily was hard and rough there were soldiers who were FAKING illness to get off the front lines WHICH WAS A DEATH SENTENCE to the soldiers still fighting. THAT is why Patton…who was within his LEGAL RIGHT to have a man shot for such a thing, slapped the one soldier AND ALSO ANOTHER. After learning the one soldier was actually ill with disintery he apologized to him.
What the movie doesn’t show you is….Patton DID go to every division and give an ‘apology speech’ just as Eisenhower ordered him to. HOWEVER… When he reached the last division to give his speech something miraculous happened… ALL OF THE MEN STOOD UP AND STARTED YELLING, “NO! NO! NO! NO!….” Patton was so emotionally overcome he sat down and cried. Then left. What was the message? THOSE MEN KNOW THAT IT WASN’T FEAR THEY HAD TO FEAR….IT WAS LETTING THE FEAR OVERCOME THEM AND CAUSE THEM TO NEVER REACH THE GOAL….WHICH IS VICTORY! This and many other truths to just what kind of man General Patton was can be found in Ladislas Farago’s book……Patton: Ordeal and Triumph. If you want it you might be able to find it on Amazon.
Thanks!
Hi Lance,
Thanks for sharing. I think focus is vital too. If we focus on what can go wrong we’ll create that reality. If we focus on what is possible we’ll create that reality. We need to realize the issue isn’t whether or not we can succeed, but whether or not we’re willing to move forward as if we can’t lose. That’s faith. Fear is the result of a mistaken identity. When we know who we are we’ll act like it and succeed. The moment we lose that focus we make things harder than they need to be. We choose our focus continuously. It doesn’t just happen to us. One step at a time. On day at a time. Each time our confidence builds for greater success, and we learn to trust toward greater action. At some point this becomes more real than the circumstances that we feared.
Well said!
So awesome. I’ve learned to recognize and reveal the enemies’ lies and embrace the opposite which will be God’s truth.
More quotes from General Patton: “Fear kills more people than death.” “Fear causes people to die when they are thirty but they don’t get buried until they’re 70.”
Wow!!!!!