THE SURPRISING SECRET TO GETTING OVER HURTS!
As we talk about breaking spiritual cycles, ever notice how many of them involve other people and unresolved conflict?
There is untold pain, sickness, and psychic taxation because people ignore this key idea – sanctified confrontation!
If you have ever been hurt, betrayed, wounded, ripped off, abused by another believer you have a couple of choices.
1.) You can forgive the matter and leave it with the Father and choose to bless.
2.) You can go to that person and confront them with the facts. Tell them what happened and how it made you feel. Speak sincerely and without anger.
Here is the oft-overlooked verse: “If a believer does something wrong, go, confront him when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have won back that believer.” (Matt 18:15)
We almost all try to do option No.#1.
The problem is the thing does not go away. It starts to eat at you. It keeps coming back. Then you bring it up to others and tell them what happened to you. Now THEY get contaminated in their mind toward the other person. If they are especially close friends of yours, they will pick up an offense toward the offending brother (or sister).
Your solution?
Know that it is PERFECTLY IN KEEPING WITH THE SPIRIT OF JESUS TO GO TO THEM IN PRIVATE AND CONFRONT THE MATTER. If it works out well – you have a healed relationship and a healed memory.
If not, well you have the option of engaging two other mutual friends in getting the situation righted.
You may not need to do that however because you finally got the thing off your chest and 50% of the time (if not more) the other party will try to do damage control and mend the situation. They may not own 100%, but you will no longer see them with a negative eye.
The worse option is to stuff your resentment. Deep down you know this is wrong. It just festers.
Make the decision – if the memory still agitates you, make an appointment to meet in private and confront.
It’s the Jesus thing to do.
Thoughts?
lance
Agreed! Thanks Lance. This is timely… It no longer become a confrontation, but a “carefrontation.”
amen that’s what I was praying for God bless you man of God