It might make a big difference in people’s lives if they understood that the soul is a spiritual part of the human anatomy.
James 2:26 explains that, “For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.” Your “inner man” or “spiritual man” is comprised of your human spirit and your soul. The moment this inner man leaves the body, death occurs. Let’s dig deeper.
Your soul is actually a living spiritual part of you. It is where your mind, will, and emotions—your spiritual energy—is located.
If you ever go to a funeral, you will notice that when there is an open casket, the deceased doesn’t look like a person sleeping. It is so obvious to me when I look. The body is like a clay vessel; the spirit that animates it has gone.
The reason I say this is because I want to talk to you about the power of soul ties.
Why is this important?
1. You are a spiritual being in a physical body. Even as your body can connect with something physical, your soul can connect with someone else. During the act of sexual intimacy, the two become one (Genesis 2:24). This is one of the mischiefs of sex. The consequences of soul ties has not been effectively taught in this generation.
2. Your soul can be bound to another. When two pieces of paper are glued together, no matter how carefully they are pulled apart, each side has fragments from the other that remain stuck to it. When you have multiple physical partners, you have multiple parts of you that have “become one” with those partners. It may not be that all those relationships have equal power but it is almost certain that there is a memory imprint that is hard to shake from one or more such encounters. American culture has completely collapsed on this front. Young people are stunned to hear this paradigm. It does more to clarify the Biblical call to sexual purity when seen from a different perspective.
What I encourage people to realize is that your soul is a real spiritual energy. The capacity to bond or have a “soul tie” with another person is not always bad. David and Jonathan, for instance, had a godly soul tie. Parts of you entwine, connect, and bond with others. Jesus had this holy bond with the 12 disciples and FELT IT when one of them betrayed that bond at the table.
The point is—be intentional, be careful about where you bond your emotions, where you go physically, where you go with intimacy, and how you open yourself up with another person. The fibers become woven together, and they influence you and you influence them. Even in physical separation, you don’t always stay apart.
3. Soul ties can hinder or delay God’s destiny for your future relationships. These individuals who were once close to you can linger in the memory of your soul. In many deliverance sessions where I’ve helped people get remarkably free, they recognize that parts of their soul are attached to other people, and that they can never fully give themselves to the relationship they are in until certain ties are broken.
When you are able to identify these soul ties and sources of bondage that are holding you back in life, you will be able to start moving towards your destiny and deeper in your relationship with God. If you believe that you are in bondage from lingering soul ties, here is what I suggest you do:
- Pray to Holy Spirit and ask him to shine His light on the areas of your life that are in bondage because of a soul tie. Let Holy Spirit reveal it to you so you can name it and then identify it.
- Break agreement with the soul tie(s). Name it and ask the Lord to remove it from you life.
- Dedicate that part of your life back to the Lord. Give him full access to those rooms of your heart and mind.
You might have objects, or gifts, such as jewelry, for instance, from past boyfriends or girlfriends. Take a look at it, and ask the Lord, “Is it time to get rid of it?” If you can’t let it go—there’s a soulish tie and connection with the item.
Consider getting rid of anything that is a trigger or a tie to neurological attachments and memories—these things are no longer meant to be a part of your heart or your life.
Question: Do you have unholy attachments with people from your past (or your present) with whom you need to break soul ties? What is the Lord speaking to you? His heart is for you to walk in freedom.
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As One!
Lance
P.S. Let this be a word that brings life and healing. Shame and condemnation have NO place. Receive His forgiveness and restoration. God is a God of REDEMPTION. When submitted before Him, He WASHES ALL THINGS CLEAN.
Now is the time to surrender, cut ties, and walk in a NEW freedom!
Thanks for shedding light on an area most people take for granted. I deeply value intimacy and so I guard my personal space; however, I know of loved ones who refuse to practice a similar caution. Sadly, these individuals are stuck in life because of the many people with which they have bonded who brings more harm to them than good.
I just read you article on soul ties. I do agree until you get to the part about holy soul ties. There is no such thing as a good soul tie. I realize this is my opinion and I will study David and Jonathan again to see if I missed something. Thanks.
The first time I heard you was at a M. J.A.A. conference at Messiah College in PA. It was 2008.
Since then I have been learning how to use a cell phone, Kindle and computer. I just discovered you on you tube.
Holy soul ties created by sexual intimacy was God’s original intent for married couples only.
In the case of David and Jonathan, their soul tie was not birthed out of a sexual relationship. Instead, their souls (mind, will, and emotions) connected as a result of very similar thoughts (mind), choices (will), and feelings (emotions).
Our union with Christ is a holy soul tie. “We have the mind of Christ”. Becoming one flesh with a spouse is a holy soul tie. Proper love of any kind is a holy soul tie. Love of the Word or love of serving The Lord and His people are holy soul ties as well since we are commanded to do those things and imitate God in them.
The Apostle Paul wrote that he was Addicted to the ministry. That’s a holy soul tie. He also said,”Woe be it unto me if I preach not the Gospel.”
So grateful you have taken the lead to strongly address, explain and bring hope to MANY who just do not know these things. Thank you Lance!
Good teaching Lance. My husband died two years ago. I still wear my engagement ring because I like it. Should I stop wearing it ? I think psychologically, it still makes me feel special and possibly unavailable.
What do you think?
Deborah…..my husband passed away 3 years ago and I was encouraged to break of the soul tie with him so I could move forward in my life without him. It was very hard but I did I. The first thing I noticed after was that I stopped falling into the cycles of depression and sadness I was in. I also recieved a joy and sense of moving forward in my life…esp in the area of purpose. The soul tie I had with my husband was a godly one but since he was no longer alive it was holding me back from grieving in a healthy way. I still wear my ring because I am still processing things and do not want to get involved in a relationship at this time. It’s my way way if saying I am off limits at the moment.
I was taught this as a freshman in HS. Imagine the different choices people at all ages would make if they knew and understood this truth.
The topic is spirit filled and undoubtedly you were in the presence of the Holy Spirit as often. The revelations are so awesome and very liberating once the outlined instructions are followed (not overlooking holy lifestyle). May God continue to grant you spiritual fulfillment as you execute that which He has placed on your mind. May you continue to yield to Jehovah Raah as you soldier on in His Vineyard.
I cant wait to share the topic with my colleagues in our local Christian Couples Fellowship.
Shalom! Shalom!
Can we help others to be free from soul ties- through intercession? Take them to God’s courtroom and ask through Jesus to release their soul ties ? Truly this generation of young adults have so many soul ties they don’t know who they are- lost in a tangle of souls.
Not so much a comment as a question, can you have a soul tie before there is any thing physical? This is something new and believe it or not I really stumbled into this without ever knowing about such a thing
I believe so.even an attraction to another person,unless you take those thoughts captive can lead to a bondage of sorts,but on a different.but if we submit ourselves to God,resist the devil he must flee,the word says.
In Hawaii we have many ethnic groups, even within the Church, who identify themselves by race, cultural heritage, ethnic customs, family names, etc. Each of these areas, as well as past habits or relationships add to how people identify themselves to themselves and others. They allow themselves to be “tied” to these areas of their soul by their memories. Though its a non-reality in Christ, it becomes their chosen “identity”. At the New Birth, Christ gives us a New identity which totally replaces every atom of the former. Only the memories of the former life remain. These are the soul ties we experiance. This is the “tradition” Jesus warned of that makes the commandments of God of no effect in our lives. Praise God that we can eliminate those dead “soul-realities” with truth through the renewed “spirit-of-your-mind” (Eph. 4:23) and replace them with the mind of Christ (1 Cor.2:16).
Thanks Lance! Needed to be reminded how important this area of our lives is. Good stuff! Any thoughts one holds on to that are not scriptural are soul ties regardless how they came in. Every aspect of the lgbtq ect. lifestyle, especially within the Church, is based on an improper soul tie.
What a clear truth. I was not taught these principles as a young person or I did not understand the principle. Thank God for His word and his ability to regenerate my body, soul, and mind.
Ephesians 4:22-24 You were taught, with reguard to your former life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of yoir new mind; and put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.