We have all had this experience. There are certain people who have their mind’s bent in such a way that they are determined to vilify you. No matter what you do or think of doing, there is a way it can be twisted in their mind so that you still end up the bad guy. You can bless them and forgive them, but in the end that may not change them. The important thing is to not wear yourself out trying to please them. Make a decision not to spend your emotional and spiritual capital on human’s who insist on being cosmic black holes in your life. Such people are often planted by the devil to “wear out the saints.”
One characteristic of such people is unresolved anger. Year’s ago I heard the masterful Rick Renner talk about the word’s “anger” and “wrath” in the Bible. In Hebrew the word for wrath ( pronounced “chemah”) speaks of heat, poison and is often connected to the idea of a “fever.” It is like a state of mind that makes one delirious and not thinking straight. Likewise the idea behind the word (pronounced “or-gay”) in the New Testament, speaks of an excited mind reaching forth to some kind of act of vengeance. It’s as if the word “wrath” frequently speaks of a state of mind that causes you to see thing’s a certain distorted way.
Thus “The wrath of man does not work the righteousness of God.” (James 1:20) You can’t think straight when angry and you cannot make someone think straight if they are committed to hate.
To be sure, some can be won by your witness, but what I want to focus on here is making sure you don’t wear yourself down trying to win those you can’t win. The one’s the devil plants to simply mess with your head. Two minister’s were in a real cat-fight year’s ago and went to Lester Sumrall to mediate. The wise elder Lester told the younger man “you will never win the war of words with the Rev. but you can out-fruit him!” That’s good advice. If you can’t capture their good will and support…..out fruit them!