One of the most powerful factors in personal transformation is SELF TALK! If, as the Bible states, you are “transformed by the renewing of your mind,” how you think and what you say to yourself have to both be top factors in your transformation.
So where do we begin?
First, we need AWARENESS! The mischief regarding self talk is that it is so constant we seldom are aware we are doing it. You won't always catch it, but you can be aware of how it makes you feel. Your emotions are wired to your thoughts – they are linked into a cause and effect sequence. As Paul wrote to the Romans: “The mind that is set on the flesh is death, but the mind that is set on the Spirit is life and peace.”
So here are 5 steps that you can use:
1. When in an extreme negative state of feeling, ask…”What am I saying to myself right now?” Get clear on the thought or belief that you hold about yourself, others, or the situation in mind.
2. Ask – “Can I be absolutely certain that what I believe is true? How do I know?” Does what you are thinking actually line up with the Word of God? If not, what should you change? Again, if it’s the truth that sets you free, it’s a lie that holds you captive. What's the lie at the root of this? Is there a subtle insinuation that “You are not enough?” or “You will not be loved?” or “You will lose something you value”? How do you know this is true?
3. Does this thought or attitude serve your ultimate best interests? Does it make you happy, calm, and fulfilled?
4. Does this attitude or belief get you more of what you want, need, and deserve? Is it taking you into your desired future, or is it leading you into circumstances that you don't want?
5. MY FAVORITE STEP…… Since we all pretty much create our own meaning for things, what could you come up with as a new meaning for this situation? What new attitude or new belief could you create that would make this an exciting and positive experience for you?
THIS last step is the practice of “Over-comers”! They work with the problem until they unearth the empowering belief that re-frames it.
As the researcher Napoleon Hill discovered, every adversity carries within it the seeds of an equivalent or GREATER benefit of SUCCESS.
Lance Wallnau
glad to see this, i have found a lot of similar ideas in Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn & Napoleon Hill writings and teachings
nothing much new under the sun, hey?
Really helpful succinct tools Lance, thanks. Life – it’s an inside job! There’s gold in them their hills!
Great Teacher Thank You!
Very nice — You need to vist us in Lake Tahoe!!!
A beautiful location indeed!
Thank you Lance they are always so helpful, keep them coming. I do give them out and have seen people transferred by them. There was this friend who had one foot inChristianity and one foot in new age and because of your teaching now has both feet in Christianity. And wants to come to one of your retreats one day. Regards Colleen O’Dea
The content of my self-talk defines my hope-level or leck thereof.
My hope-level defines my believe as seeing my destiny.
Thank you for your words of transformation… Best I start talking myself up to the language God is using concerning me…. Hmmm! “I am a King of the Great King and born to influence and rule on the mountains of Government and Business”….
Great stuff Lance! Any chance we could publish this in our next Issue?
For sure! lets do it.
I really appreciate the reminder of the heart of this message. Very timely in my world as I am in the process of re-framing much of my sphere of influence and future.
This is so encouraging at this time in my life. I’m fighting despair and discouragement and the spirit of darkness where I am in this time of my life at my age.