5 Steps To Self Talk That Will Transform You

Self TalkOne of the most powerful factors in personal transformation is SELF TALK! If, as the Bible states, you are “transformed by the renewing of your mind,” how you think and what you say to yourself have to both be top factors in your transformation.

So where do we begin?

First, we need AWARENESS! The mischief regarding self talk is that it is so constant we seldom are aware we are doing it. You won't always catch it, but you can be aware of how it makes you feel. Your emotions are wired to your thoughts – they are linked into a cause and effect sequence. As Paul wrote to the Romans: “The mind that is set on the flesh is death, but the mind that is set on the Spirit is life and peace.”

So here are 5 steps that you can use:
1. When in an extreme negative state of feeling, ask…”What am I saying to myself right now?” Get clear on the thought or belief that you hold about yourself, others, or the situation in mind.

2. Ask – “Can I be absolutely certain that what I believe is true? How do I know?” Does what you are thinking actually line up with the Word of God? If not, what should you change? Again, if it’s the truth that sets you free, it’s a lie that holds you captive. What's the lie at the root of this? Is there a subtle insinuation that “You are not enough?” or “You will not be loved?” or “You will lose something you value”? How do you know this is true?

3. Does this thought or attitude serve your ultimate best interests? Does it make you happy, calm, and fulfilled?

4. Does this attitude or belief get you more of what you want, need, and deserve? Is it taking you into your desired future, or is it leading you into circumstances that you don't want?

5. MY FAVORITE STEP…… Since we all pretty much create our own meaning for things, what could you come up with as a new meaning for this situation? What new attitude or new belief could you create that would make this an exciting and positive experience for you?

THIS last step is the practice of “Over-comers”! They work with the problem until they unearth the empowering belief that re-frames it.
As the researcher Napoleon Hill discovered, every adversity carries within it the seeds of an equivalent or GREATER benefit of SUCCESS.

Lance Wallnau

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62 thoughts on “5 Steps To Self Talk That Will Transform You

  1. Thank you Lance they are always so helpful, keep them coming. I do give them out and have seen people transferred by them. There was this friend who had one foot inChristianity and one foot in new age and because of your teaching now has both feet in Christianity. And wants to come to one of your retreats one day. Regards Colleen O’Dea

  2. The content of my self-talk defines my hope-level or leck thereof.
    My hope-level defines my believe as seeing my destiny.

  3. Thank you for your words of transformation… Best I start talking myself up to the language God is using concerning me…. Hmmm! “I am a King of the Great King and born to influence and rule on the mountains of Government and Business”….

  4. Simple, but profound. Our greatest challenge is overcoming the conflict within. This battle is only won through self discipline. These five steps help to develop the discipline to overcome self defeat! Thanks!

  5. Helpful for the left brain. Yet, the right brain will need an actual experience of Joy; otherwise, the person cannot overcome on their left brain (logic responses) alone.

    “It was for the Joy set before him that Christ endured the cross”


  7. Great insight! I have dealt with negative self talk for a long time. When I’m in a tense situation, the first person I blame is me!! Could it be from being raised in an alcoholic family where no one took responsibility for their own actions?! Very confusing. But thank God, our Reedemer continues to show me the way out of this destructive cycle. Thanks Lance for this teaching!! Really spoke to me!

  8. I realize that when I am viewing myself as a solution to the problems before me, my self talk follows suit. It is when we internalize or draw a solid line between our lives and the problem that self talk goes south.

  9. As always, you teach us where the rubber meets the road in our daily
    walk. Again we praise The Lord for His ministry through you, and thank
    you for your relationship with Him, that keeps you hearing what He would say to His people

  10. Thankyou Lance , trying to come off anti depresssants @ the moment & each day is a struggle , when I read your inspiring messages I stop & think “what the is going on inside my head” Think Positive !!!

  11. I used this to resolve a “pity party” and it did the trick in a hurry! Great list. You can be sure I am going to post this on my fridge! I love the teachings you are giving…heep them coming.

  12. I find Philemon 1:6 a very powerful scripture and helpful in transforming my mind and building up my inner man by
    “Acknowledging every good thing that is in you in Christ.”

  13. Thank you Lance. Your wisdom that you share here is not found anywhere else. So glad that your on our team (God’s team!) lol. Very blessed to have you as part of the body, and I learn so much from every one of these posts. I will make sure I re-frame my mind everytime I get a negative thought…

  14. that is very true and we need to mindful they way how we think and talk to our-self otherwise this is what is killing us a lot

  15. Hi Lance, yes, we can’t hear this too much, to constantly be assessing where are thoughts are coming from. That warfare is hugely important….
    I am wondering how you handle thoughts when you wake up? I would love to hear your suggestions and other people’s suggestions., I am someone who is a pokey waker-upper, and I usually wake up quite fuzzy, getting my bearings. And honestly, sometimes with “garlic of the soul”, a la The Grinch! I never feel right until I read my Bible in the morning. But in the moments between waking up, and getting my coffee and going to my Bible…….are there confessions that you are making?……or verses?….or speaking forth positive comments? I would love to know how others do it, to start the day off on a positive path, looking at the Lord. !!!!!! 🙂

  16. Excellent blog Lance – reminds me of Phil. 4:8 “And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” v.9 “Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me…..then the God of peace will be with you.

  17. Thank you. This is the very thing I just started paying attention to, and am starting to realize. I’m just starting to repent of the lies of self talk. I am so encouraged to read this blog. Thank you and God bless you.

  18. I am disappointed that you would quote Napoleon Hill in your article. You are right on about the power of our thoughts and words, but I don’t think it is wise to use his material or quote him as a source. He suggests calling on spirit guides, and did so in his quest for success secrets. As a Christian, I find it hard to reconcile his teachings with true faith in Jesus.

  19. I like the general idea of this, but I think better questions to ask would be along the lines of “What does God say about this?” “What will bring Him glory?” “Where is the Sprit of God leading in this?” All this talk about “my best interest” and “my wants, needs, and desires” is slippery. IF I am totally abandoned to Him, my wants etc. will also be His, and that’s where we need to be. IF I am still living in my carnal self, MY wants, needs, and desires will not lead me to His perfect will in taking the Mountain He has set me on. Just my thoughts….

  20. My bible, Maxwell and you is what I read every morning in order to bring more non-believers to God, my choices are being more relevant and able to communicate biblical principles without being religious, I would love for you someday to record a message for my leaders until I can afford to bring them to one of your events, that will happen soon, Gracias Señor Wallnau!

  21. Lance, what wonderful wisdom. Your guidance, support and love are amazing. We are all richer for having you and your team in our lives. Thank you for blessing all of us. I declare and decree in the name if Jesus that no weapon formed or fashion against anyone’s mind will prosper only the Holy Ghost has liberty only the Angels of God are welcome. We are all be transformed by the renewing of our minds in Christ Jesus, we have the mind of Christ. We exchange our thoughts and ways for His thoughts and ways. Love and peace!

  22. This is amazing! I am constantly asking God about things I must change to be a better person a it helped me a lot! Tnks again!

  23. Lance,
    I always love reading and hearing your words! They are always life and truth and music to my ears! Thank you for being you, and always dispelling your wisdom with others.

    I have a question for you: Do you have any thoughts on the authoritative classic “What to Say When you Talk to Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter??? Would you recommend it?

    Incidentally I happened to be in a place in my journey where I am taking proactive steps to “re-program” myself via various self-talk practices and implementations. I’d place great weight on your opinion on the book or if you’d recommend reading it or practicing what it communicates.